things they don't tell you...
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It has been too long since my last post and I chock it up to depression. I have been in a major funk for the last couple of months. I am certainly looking forward to Spring. Oh, wait. It's Spring? Hmm, Mother Nature must have missed the memo.
I'm not sure many of you know what has been going on in the background so I'll fill you in a little bit (but I'll spare the gory details): my youngest sister(25) had major surgery just over 6 weeks ago. She had a lung removed. She has suffered from a rare lung disease (in addition to other ailments) for many years now and it was decided that the diseased part of the lung needed to be removed. She was released and healing when she landed back in the hospital with some pretty serious complications. This second round of hospitalization has lasted a month now. So if I think I feel depressed, imagine how she must feel.
I am not writing this post for sympathy. In fact, Jules would kill me if that were the case. Instead, I want to tell you all about how she is one of the strongest people I know. Most of us can't even imagine living day-to-day the way she did for so long.
I think there are many types of strength. Some people find it easier to be strong for the ones they love- my mom has this kind of strength. Some are advocates, fighting for what they believe in- I think this is my strength. Others can endure great amounts of pain and disappointment and still come out with a smile- this is Jules.
I admire my sister for her strength. She worked through nursing school battling illness and various other stones (sometimes boulders) the Universe threw at her. Having goals [ and a strong family behind her] made the fight more manageable. Once she became a nurse, she fought through the night shift in a hospital until she found more accommodating day hours. Unfortunately, even the day shift proved to be too strenuous for her body.
Jules always wanted to be a nurse. I guess while spending her life as a patient in hospitals and doctors' offices, this career choice was inevitable. She knew bad nurses, good nurses and spectacular nurses. It is her goal to be one of those spectacular nurses. A spectacular nurse needs a number of qualities including timeliness (we are learning this now), empathy, gentleness, and compassion. Jules has all of these qualities. Anyone who knows her will tell you that she was a special kid who grew into a special woman.
I hope that when she comes through this difficult time in her life, that she will continue to spread positivity and inspire others to fight too. No one else can fight for you the way you can. If you don't fight for yourself, what is the incentive for others to do so?
Through good days and bad, fight. Your strength is who you are.
Jules said something really profound a few weeks ago. I was feeling like she needed to do some positive thinking but we are not religious and prayer isn't the answer. I told her to believe in something... anything... that makes her feel good. She simply said that "her people" are what she believes in. At this comment my heart jumped right out of my chest because it is true. Why hadn't I put that into words before? I couldn't agree more, Jules. Let's continue believing in each other.
On that note, I'll conclude today's post with a list I stole from Psychology Today:
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I am Dom. A mom, teacher, novice writer, cook, wine drinker, and so much more- filling the internet with unsolicited stories, questions, dreams, recipes, and advice. I'll be the voice that tells you what everyone is wondering but no one wants to ask!